I was looking at the frail and fragile figure of Demi Moore since her split from Ashton Kutcher.
Once touted as an inspiration for attracting the handsome and much younger Ashton, it is now doubtful whether their six year marriage was worth the cost.
Demi has transformed from a confident, attractive 49-year-old woman to an anorexic, washed up celebrity who needs to go to rehab.
It all seemed so different when the divorced actress and mother of three met the young and handsome Kutcher. Fifteen years her junior and a rising star as Celso in ‘That 70s Show’, they had an instant attraction for each other.
Admittedly, Demi did not look like your average 40+ woman with her fabulous figure and ageless face. Even so, fifteen years is quite a difference – no matter how good you look.
Yet was the relationship with this much younger man doomed from the start? If so, what lessons can be learned?
Of course, Demi is not the first woman who snared a young lover. Cher did the same in the 1980s when she had a two year relationship with Rob Camelleti – a 22 year old bagel baker who she met on her 40th birthday.
Britt Ekland married Jim McDonnnell, the drummer from rockabilly band Stray Cats, 18 years her junior (which makes her more of a Cougar than Demi).
Then – of course – there is Madonna who is always snaring young men though never appears overly bothered when these relationships end.
Not only midlife women suffer when relationships end. Rod Stewart said he should have known it would end in tears when Rachel Hunter, 30 years his junior, filed for divorce.
Hugh Hefner goes from one young woman to the next but was puzzled when his fiancé, who was 60 years younger, left him standing at the alter.
Are we deluded to believe that relationships with much younger men and women will work?
And what is an appropriate age gap anyway?
I hope Demi finds solace in spending time alone or with someone her own age.