A Sydney Morning Herald article lists the signs of a midlife female crisis as depression, bewilderment, addictions, anxiety, lethargy, feelings of suffocation and meaninglessness and an overwhelming need for change.
My feeling is that middle-age isn’t so much the problem, although midlife, with its receding gums, greying hair and adipose centrality, is ripe for disaster if we refuse to live the examined life.
The SMH article describes what I’d call a whole-life crisis and this can strike at any age.
A whole-life crisis happens when we realise consumer culture is a dud.
It happens when our thoughts start to drive us crazy and we can’t stop them.
And it especially happens when we take our thoughts too seriously.
So, how do we deal with a whole-life crisis and the stressful thoughts that accompany it?
We can deal with it in two ways:
- We can question our stressful thoughts; and
- We can withdraw interest in our thoughts.
Jac O’keefe is a woman who lost interest in her thoughts years ago. She gives classes and talks all over the world on how you can do this too.
She invites us to “Sit still, be quiet, and don’t engage with any thoughts that come, just let them pass without your interest.”
Her website brims with talks and articles and video clips (many of them free) to help you deal with whatever life throws in your direction.
Check it out.