Please answer the following equation with the first word that enters your head:
Midlife + Women = ?
“Invisible,” did you say?
If so, you have fallen for a story reinforced by magazines, newspaper articles and consensus reality.
In my experience, this equation fails to add-up: no midlife woman to whom I’ve spoken feels invisible, and, even if it’s true, we can use it to our advantage. After all, it is a super power. Remember the Invisible Man and his ability to eavesdrop, foil criminal plans and go about his business unobstructed?
Instant visibility boost
However, if you are feeling invisible (no matter what your age) and need a visibility boost then try a Wonder Woman two minute power pose. It will alter your body chemistry by lowering cortisol (your stress hormone) and raising testosterone (your confidence hormone).
Professor Amy Cuddy is a social psychologist at the Harvard Business School and she’s conducted a remarkable series of experiments on body language. She found that standing for two minutes in an open “high power” pose affects how you feel about yourself and how others see you.
She recommends the Wonder Woman pose whenever you need confidence and presence.
The Wonder Woman “High Power” pose:
Find a private space (the bathroom will do) and stand with your feet a hip width apart and with your hands on your hips. Keep your spine erect and your gaze parallel to the floor as you follow your breath as it moves in and out of your body. Do this for two minutes.
It will do wonders for your confidence and others will see you more positively.
Here’s a link to an article summarising Professor Cuddy’s recent TED Talk and the Ted Talk itself:
You can read more of Claire Bell’s articles in the eBook collection, The Wellbeing: Simple ways to lighten your life – available from Midlifexpress.
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